With that being said, my message tonight is for my fellow ladies who may be wondering if the person you're in a relationship with is really the right person for you. First, know that you are a Goddess. You are God's beautiful gift to man. You are the prize. And you need not chase after any good thing your heart desires. There is a scripture my spiritual mom used to say to me all the time on this subject as well from Psalm 37:4, which says, "Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart."
I believe wholeheartedly that everyone of us, created by God, who is love, in his image and likeness of love, all deserve to be loved. I also believe there is someone out there that is a perfect match for everyone who desires to be mated and in love with another. Yet, as a woman, our job is not the hunter, man's is. Therefore, it is not our duty to seek the man but man's job to seek us.
Our job is to seek God, delight ourselves in God, ask God to reveal to us the man...the mate....the husband....he has in mind for us for his higher purpose and calling. Then through your trusting God and waiting on him to send that divine right man he has ordained to be your mate into your life, you will attract the right one for you to you. In the meantime, it would behoove us to use that waiting period to allow God to prepare us for the coming of that man. In so doing, we allow God to give us the desires of our heart.
When a woman takes it upon herself to chase after a man she throws this natural and divine process out of order which leads to her confusion over rather or not he is the right man. This also, more times than not, results in the deep hurt and disappointment she endures as a consequence when this type of relationship inevitably doesn't work out.
So....how do you know if the person you're in a relationship with is really the right person for you sent by God? You'll know because he will come after you. He will pursue you consistently, with sheer determination, persistence, focus, passion, clear intention and drive just like he goes after anything else in life he really wants. Remember, men are hunters and they pursue hard and relentlessly anything they really want or truly desire to have...and ladies....that includes you. There will be no guessing on your part and no need for you to convince him to stay. There will be no need to do anything to win him over or prove to him why you are worthy of him.
In fact, just the opposite will be the case. He will be the one going out of his way and doing everything possible to win you over. He will be the one chasing hard after you and doing whatever it takes just to be in your space and spend time with you. And as far as proving your worthiness to him, he will treat you in a manner that clearly affirms that your very being, just as you are, is already more than enough for him. All you will have to do is just be your authentic self. And the one that's right for you will see you, accept you, and love you as you are.
So if you find yourself having to do all the work to get his attention and step outside your character to hold his attraction, he's not the guy for you. If you notice that he's always trying to find reasons and excuses to leave you, break up with you, or can find time to do any and everything else but never makes spending quality time with a priority, then he's not the one for you. If you find yourself investing far more energy and effort than he is to maintain the relationship then he's not the one for you.
Most importantly, as I mentioned earlier ladies, you are the gift, you are the prize, and you are very much worth fighting for. Therefore, if he's always fighting with you but he's not willing to fight for you, protect and defend your honor and the integrity of your relationship, he is definitely not the one for you. When a man truly loves you his actions will align with his words. Better yet...his actions will precede his words. Better still...his actions will out weigh his words.
In other words, he will leave no room for doubt in your mind of his genuine feelings for you. Because what he is willing to do for you more than what he says to you will be all the proof you need to know how much he truly cherishes, appreciates, honors, adores, respects, and loves you. And in my opinion, anything less than that is simply not worth you settling for.
Now I'm no relationship expert. Neither am I a life counselor or ordain minister. So how do I know all this to be true you might be thinking. How am I able to speak on this with such boldness, conviction, and confidence that what I've shared here with you today is truth? Simple. Because I've lived long enough to have experienced being on both ends of this relationship stick. So I'm speaking to you on this from my own personal experience, as well as, the wisdom my dear spiritual mother gave me, who was, by the way, an ordained minister and life coach. I also speak from all the mistakes in behavior and judgment I've seen so many of my girlfriends make in this area of life.
But as for me, I have had the man who saw my light, pursued me hard, won me over, loved me tenderly, and unconditionally, and treated me with the utmost respect, honor, and appreciation. He protected me as well as our relationship, defended my honor even to his close friends and family if necessary, and showed me consistently how much he cherished me until the day he made his unfortunate transition from this life far too soon.
On the other hand, I have also experienced a relationship that was on the polar opposite end of that spectrum with a man who was half-hearted in his actions and intentions of me from the very beginning. Yet I found it easier, at the time, to over look all those red flags, like most of us women are guilty of doing, and live with the beautiful lie of who I wanted to see him as being rather than face the ugly truth of who he was clearly showing me he really was .
He displayed behavior and words to me that were unloving and less than honorable towards me from the gate. But I wrote it off and like most women, again, I was too forgiving where I should have held him accountable and cut him off early on. In the end, I stay way passed what should have been the expiration date of the relationship. And as a result of doing so, his treatment towards me continued to become increasingly disrespectful, dishonorable, unloving, unkind and left me feeling not even remotely close to being cherished.
Until finally, it reached the point of him being blatantly verbally and emotionally abusive towards me. And if that's not enough, another major red flag and clue that this was clearly not the man God had in mind for me was that, as I mentioned early, he was always...and I mean always....finding any and every smallest reason, disagreement, or excuse to justify his repeated plans to leave. He was also never ever willing to fight for me, protect our relationship or much less defend my honor.
Eventually, I came to my senses, began listening to everything God had been clearly showing me for some time, and I began taking my power back by first releasing that person and relationship from my life. In the aftermath of that experience, I know that he will eventually have to answer to God regarding the unwarranted abusive manner in which he treated me. Yet, I take full responsibility for allowing myself to be subjected to such treatment for as long as I did. And although I still have to pray almost daily for God to help me forgive him for treated me that way and myself for allowing someone to treat me that way for that long of time, there are a few good things that came from what I've lived through. One of those blessings is my now very clear ability to see and know for certain the difference between a good man that is truly God sent and genuinely loves me and one who is clearly not.
So I hope my sharing a little of my story and life lessons in love with you in this message, will help whoever among you who read this that needs it the most. If not please pass it on to someone in your girlfriend/sister circle who you think will benefit from it. And remember the words of Psalm 23:6 that says of God, "your goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life." The operative words here being "shall follow me" not me chase after it.
Bottom line, you do not have to chase your blessings ladies. Your blessings from God will pursue you. They will follow after you. The man that God has for you will also, in God's perfect time, seek you, find you, pursue you, win you over, respect you, honor you, appreciate you, adore you, defend you, cherish you, and just like the old Barry White song, he will also love you... Just The Way You Are. Most importantly, he will leave no room for doubt in your heart or mind that he is indeed the divine right man for you.
Until next time....remember to keep your heart open and your LOVE light on!!! ~ Anna MsPoet Hendricks - Your Inspirational Goddess of Love
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By Anna MsPoet Hendricks
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References: Holy Bible, Psalm 23:6, Psalm 37:3, Lamsa Aramic Translation, Barry White, Just The Way You Are, YouTube
