"May integrity and honesty protect me, for I put my hope in you." ~ Psalm 25:21 (NLT)
Honesty is not always the easy road to take. Nevertheless, it is always the high road to take. Yet, unfortunately, and far too often, it is also the road less traveled. Still, when fused with decorum, diplomacy, and compassion, honesty can be a most beautiful and attractive quality.
It displays integrity, maturity, and strength of character. And although it's sometimes hard to express and even harder to receive...honesty demands respect. You may not always like hearing the honesty that's being shared with you. But it's much easier to both like and respect a person that is always being honest and forthcoming with you.
This doesn't apply to people who go around using other's as their "emotional dumpsters". You know the type....people who use any opportunity or excuse to spew their emotional toxic, negative energy, and dysfunction on another for the sheer purpose of making you feel badly about yourself in order for them to feel better about their self. And they do it all in the name of..."tough love" or "just being brutally honest".
That kind of honesty is just a cover up...a disguise...an excuse for a person who really is just being malicious, mean-spirited, ugly, and unloving. Truth is, in cases like this, it has more to do with them and not you. I speak from experience of having people like this in my life as family members, former co-workers, and even ex-relationship partners.
It used to hurt me very deeply. And it has taken me a long time to over come that hurt and finally realize that people who use moments of vulnerability between you to spew off their personal attacks towards you, with deliberate intent to hurt you, are really emotionally damaged, insecure people who are crying out for love. So try not to take it personally. It really has nothing to do with you. As hard as it is often times to do, those kind of people you have to just pray for, forgive, and walk away.
In fact, I don't even like the terms, "tough love" and "brutally honest" or think those words even go together. There is nothing "tough" about love nor does there have to be anything "brutal" about honesty. I say this because genuine honesty comes from a heart that has pure intentions and is filled with care, compassion, and consideration of the other people's feelings.
This kind of honesty is done with a purpose of healing the emotional wounds, closing the gaps of separation, or disconnect between the two of you. It is done with the intent of promoting love through clarity which dissolves any misunderstandings, and effective communication for the purpose of promoting peace and positive energy between all parties involved. Key word here is effective communication. This means listening for understaning rather than arguing your point in effort to prove that you're right and the other person is wrong.
This kind of honesty becomes Truth with a capitol T which comes from the Infinite Intelligence and Wisdom of Divine Mind. Rather than the honesty that comes from the aforementioned person who is just being mean-spirited. That's truth with a lower case t. Because it comes from the human intellectual mind and is motivated by the ego-self, which promotes further separation in the relationship instead of love.
The honesty and love I'm referring to here doesn't necessarily mean romantic love or romantic relationships. This applies to all forms of relationship and the love I'm referring to here is divine love that abides in us all when we connect with our Source.
Let me say that again in a more simpler way. No matter what the circumstances are around the situation or how long the situation has existed, the person who surrenders the situation to God first and prays for guidance of their words before attempting to communicate or express their honesty and truth, will always be led in spirit exactly what to say and how to say it in the most loving and compassionate way. No need for being "brutal". No need for so called, "tough love", and most importantly, no need to avoid addressing the matter for fear of confrontation.
Whenever you take any situation to Spirit (God) first before expressing your truth you will always have an harmonious outcome. Because even if the other person has not done their inner spiritual work and you have, you alone in the matter being aligned first with God is more power than millions who are not. This means everyone else involved in the matter will have to either rise up to your higher consciousness and heart vibration frequency of peace, love, harmony and understanding. Or the universe will support you through the law of attraction removing them from your life. It can only go one of those two ways. Period.
So never be afraid to be honest. Because honesty that comes from a heart with pure intentions and that is first aligned with ones Source-self, is a heart that is filled with compassion, respect, and consideration of other's feelings. This kind of honesty builds relationships rather than destroy them.
This kind of honesty exudes strength of character on your part rather the other person's responds kindly to your honest expression of truth or not. This kind of honesty builds trust. It also cultivates and creates a safe space for true intimacy. This kind of honesty is one of the highest attributes of love. Because without honesty the seeds of love cannot blossom...and the life of the relationship simply cannot last.
Lastly, if you don't take away anything else from this article remember this. An Honest Heart Produces Honest Actions.
Until next time....Remember to keep your hearts open...and your LOVE lights on!
~Anna MsPoet Hendricks - Your Goddess of Love
A One Love Production
By Anna MsPoet Hendricks
References: Psalm 25:21,Holy Bible, New Living Translaton
