Healing Hearts and Providing Empowering Messages of Spiritual Insight and Love Through the Original Creative Works of Articles & Poetry
by Anna 'Ms.Poet' Hendricks
Happy Birthday Capricorns! Here's a list I compiled of famous people who have celebrated birthdays in the first half of Capricorn, between Dec. 22 and today, Jan. 10th.
Actor- Jim Carey, Born Jan. 17, 1962
Actor – Mekhi Phifer, Born Dec. 29, 1974
Actor – Morris Chestnut, Born Jan. 1, 1969
Rapper – Grandmaster Flash, Born Jan. 1, 1958
Actress – Sophie Okonedo, Born Jan. 1, 1968
(She played the role of May Boatwright oppositeQueen Latifahin the 2008 film, The Secret Life of Bees.)
Singer –Tank, Born Jan. 1, 1978
Tameka Foster, Born Jan. 1, 1971 - (Former wife of singer, Usher Raymond)
Actor – Cuba Gooding Jr. , Born Jan. 2, 1968
Actor – Taye Diggs, Born Jan. 2, 1971
Actor – Mel Gibson, Born Jan. 3, 1956
Actor – Bradley Cooper, Born Jan. 5, 1975
Dancing with the Stars Judge – Carrie Ann Inaba, Born Jan. 5, 1968
American dancer and choreographer who served as a judge on ABC's Dancing with the Stars.
Actor – Robert Duvall, Born Jan. 5, 1931
Director – John Singleton, Born Jan. 6, 1968
Actor – Nicholas Cage, Born Jan. 7, 1964
News Anchor/TV Show Host – Katie Couric, Born Jan. 7, 1957
Singer/Actor – Elvis Presley, Born Jan. 8, 1935
Singer – R. Kelly, Born Jan. 8, 1967
Duchess of Cambridge – Kate Middleton, born Jan. 9, 1982
Famous Caps born today Jan. 10th :
Singer – Rod Stewart, 1945
Boxer – George Foreman, 1949
Boxer – Felix Trinidad, 1973
And my Celebrity Capricorn pick this week, in the Love Light Spot Light also representing the Friday song for this week,is Singer/Actor-Tyrese. Born Tyrese Darnell Gibson, Dec. 30, 1978 in the Watts district of Los Angeles, where he also grew up with his two brothers raised by his mom as a single parent after his father left, he is better known in the entertainment industry today as simply, Tyrese.
Holding several titles under his belt as, Singer, Song Writer, Actor, Model, Film and Television Producer, MTV VJ, and Father to his daughter, Shayla Somer Gibson. He has also added Author to his long list of titles with his bestselling books, How To Get Out of Your Own Way, and Manology: The Secrets To Your Man's Mind Revealed, co-authored with his friend and mentor Rev. Run of, the higly acclaimed 80's rap group, Run DMC.
He began his career after being discovered on a bus which led to his appearance in the 1994 Coca-Cola television commercial advertisement, when the world was first blessed to hear his gifted voice, which I distinctly remember and still get chills down my back and butterfly's in my stomach as I reminisce about it while writing this. I can still see him singing that famous one liner yet popular catch phrase, "Always Coca-Cola." From there his professional singing career skyrocketed into the long list of successes he holds to date, which is not surprising since Capricorns are known as the zodiac sign of hard workers and high achievers.
Since then he has repeatedly made the Billboard charts with sizzling hot songs that appeal to his heavy following of female fans. With sexy, sultry, singles from his 1998 self-titled debut album, Tyrese, like,Lately and Sweet Lady, which earned him a Grammy award, he quickly became famous in the world of romance. His creative bodies of work as a singer/songwriter went on to include a string of lustful songs oozing with passion and seduction from his five albums released between 2001 to present, including his most recent hit single, Stay, from his 2011 cd, Open Invitation, that's still in heavy rotation on urban radio today. More recently, he joined creative forces with singers Ginuwine and Tank to form TGT , a collaborative cd released in 2013. His next solo project he's working on entitled, Black Rose, is expected to be released sometime this year 2014. But his success and fame doesn't stop there. This celebrity Capricorn is far more than just a soulful singing, 5ft 11in tall piece of chocolate eye candy. He's also a credible actor who's proven talent has justly earned him the respect he deserves in Hollywood. His most notable work as an actor include his movie debut role as Jody in, fellow Capricorn, John Singleton's 2001 movie, Baby Boy and his role as Roman Pierce in the street car racing action series, 2 Fast 2 Furious, as well as Fast and Furious 5, 6 and 7 among a long list of other hot Hollywood action films. Lastly, here's a couple of little factoids you may not have known about Mr. Tyrese Gibson. Did you know he started singing at the age of 14? He alsoattended Florida A&M University and is a member of the Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity, Inc. There's no doubt this abundantly talented Capricorn really lives up to the positive traits of being a high achieving, goal oriented, ambitious, family man born under the zodiac earth sign represented by the goat. For all these aforementioned reasons it's easy to see why he's the perfect celebrity to be my pick for this weeks Love Light Spot Light, not only to represent his zodiac sign but my Inspirational Love Note Friday song as well. With that said, here's the video to his single, also perfectly befitting for my Love Note topic today, Signs of Love Makin', from his 2002 cd, I Wanna Go There. Warning: This video is of mature content. Rated Grown & Sexy. So you might want to get your favorite glass of wine and a fan, like he has in the video, to cool you off afterward cause it is H....O...T...HOT! (LOL)
Until next time...I surround you in Love & Light! So always keep your heart open and your Love light shining bright.
A One Love Production By Anna M. Hendricks Copyright 2014 Reference: wikipedia.org, 2014, famousbirthdays.com, 2014, Ganeshaspeaks.com/capricorn/capricorn-traits.action, 2013
As we prepare to cross the bridge of time together tonight from 2013 into 2014, let us do so leaving all baggage and blockage behind that will weigh us down, slow us down, block us or prevent us from moving forward and progressing upward and onward to our higher greater good in the coming year.
Let us welcome in the new year 2014 with an open and receptive heart ready and willing to give our best and receive the very best life has in store for us in return. Let us go forth across the bridge of time into 2014 with open arms and high expectations for the glorious future full of blessings that lies before us.
Lastly, let us remember that no matter what you went through in the year now ending the best is still yet to come. And though you may have uncertainty's about what the future holds remember that it is God who holds your future. Therefore, go in peace and love knowing all is well. See you on the other side of the bridge to the New Year 2014.
"Remember not the former things, neither consider the things of the old. Behold, I will do a new thing..." Isaiah 43:18
Until next time...I surround you in Love & light! So remember to keep your heart open and your LOVE light on. A One Love Production By Anna M. Hendricks Copyright 2013 References: Holy Bible, Lamsa's Aramaic Translation
I Am...Giving...Peaceful...Harmonious... Just...Zenful...one of a kind.
I AM...Humble...Gifted...Incredibly Talented... Whole and Complete.
I Am...Generous...Genuine......Gentle...Caring...Courageous.... And impossible to Defeat.
I AM...Fearless...Faithful...Reliable...Creative...Unique.
I Am...Healthy...Wealthy...Abundant... And Successful in all that I seek. I Am...Inspirational....Humorous...Hopeful... Spiritually Strong yet Meek. I Am...Classy...Considerate...Clever...Confident... Faithful and Kind. I Am...Loyal...Loving...Compassionate...Understanding... And I let my God-Light Shine. I Am...Respectful...Honest...Committed...Trustworthy... Romantic...Passionate and Poetically Sublime. I Am...Resourceful and Resilient with Fortitude that stands the test of time.
I Am...Fiercely Persistent and full of Determination... Yet, Patient because I know that I am worthy of all I dream of. I Am...Joyful...Graceful...Grateful... Faith-filled and Spirit-filled with Reverence for God whom I put no one above. I Am Extraordinary...I Am Phenomenal... I Am Feminine Energy Personified... I Am Love.
I am a firm believer that honesty really is the best policy in relationships. The problem with this is that the truth is often hard to hear and even more difficult to accept even from someone you know truly loves you and has your best interest at heart. For this reason, people say they welcome honesty in their relationships and do perfectly well giving it. Ironically, most people are shocked to discover they really can't handle when it's their turn to be on the receiving end of it. The other problem here is that you cannot give to or do for another what you have not yet learned to give to or do for yourself.
In other words, you cannot experience a healthy relationship dynamic with another if you do not have a healthy relationship with yourself. So if you notice that people seem to run amuck in your life, because you have not learned how to set healthy boundaries for yourself that you stick to no matter who it is attempting to cross them, then you do not have a healthy relationship with yourself. Likewise, you cannot be honest with another if you have not learned to be honest with yourself about unhealthy behavior patterns you may have. In fact, if you were to be completely honest with yourself as you read this article and you know the aforementioned person sounds a little or a lot like you. As hard as it may be to accept, find the courage to do a self-awareness audit by taking a good, honest look at the role you played in the outcome of your past relationship experiences. What you will most likely find is that you have certain, attitudes, beliefs and behavior patterns that have proven themselves, by the repeated undesirable outcome of your relationship history, to be unhealthy and not conducive to maintaining the kind of lasting and loving relationship you desire. Therefore, honesty, trust and respect are not only the three key elements that are important for having a healthy relationship with others but with yourself as well. A healthy relationship with yourself or others cannot survive without the three key elements of trust, honesty and respect. And you cannot have one while lacking the other because each one leads to the development of the other. Speaking personally from my own self-awareness, I know that I cannot grow to respect someone I cannot be honest with. Nor am I able to trust people who have not also earned my respect. The key word in that sentence is earned because while trust, honesty and respect are three key essential elements to a healthy relationship, they are also virtues that should be earned not just handed over on a silver platter. However, the catch 22 here is you cannot be honest with your genuine feelings with someone you cannot trust your heart with. Nor can you trust someone you do not respect or who does not make you feel respected by their repeated negative or unhealthy behavior patterns in your relationships. So what do you do in this case? I say, when your relationship comes to this point it's time to seriously consider if it's even worth your continued effort to try to maintain it. I say this because it's virtually impossible to maintain a healthy relationship that lacks the room or ability for open, honest, heartfelt communication even when the truth hurts and in most cases it does. And you don't have to be mean, purposely hurtful or demeaning in order to be honest with someone. In all communications with another you can and should use tact, compassion for the other persons feelings and a sense of decorum. When people choose to do the latter when expressing their feelings and say it's all in the name of, "I'm just being honesty", they're are lying. When people are nasty, critical, judgmental and demeaning they are not having honest communication from a heart of love with good intentions. They are instead having fear based conversation rooted in their own hurt. Their words are coming from their shattered ego and broken pride usually stemming from some unhealed wounded place within them they have not dealt with. Or your heartfelt honesty shared with them in the past or present that they were unable to handle, accept and digest as the hard-core truth about them or the situation you both are going through. So they wait until you're having a vulnerable moment and they dumb all their ugly, negative words on you disguised as " the truth." The real truth is they are making a sad, unloving attempt to make you hurt because they are hurting. And as the saying goes, hurt people...hurt other people. So when this happens don't buy into it or take it personally because it's absolutely not about you. Nor is it the kind of honest, open, heartfelt communication we're talking about here. That being said, I stand on my opening statement and belief that you cannot have, build or maintain a healthy relationship dynamic without the three key elements of honest, trust and respect. I believe this so strongly not only because these three virtues are the core principles for living my life. They are standards in which I hold myself to and expect from others in my relationships. In fact, these three virtues are so important to me that, as a new mom, I am already planting these seeds as core values to live by in my eighteen month old daughter.
Also, my personal life experiences and relationships have taught me, if nothing else, that you cannot have a genuine affinity with another if the relationship the two of you share does not afford or allow authenticity. More simply put, if your relationship does not allow you room to be "real" with each other on a deep genuine level then what you have is not authentic. If you're having to walk around on egg shells all the time because the minute you speak your truth from your heart it upsets the apple cart and all peace is suddenly lost. Then you have to question if you really have genuine energy of peace between you to begin with. If you have to candy coat your words all the time because the other person can't handle you being direct and honest even when you are kind, calm and loving in your approach they still become defensive and shut down all communication. Yes, all relationships be it family, friends or romantic partners, experience growth spurts where you have arguments. However, a relationship that has an authentic exchange of love energy is one where both parties understand that the real purpose of relationships is to help each individual grow and gain better understanding and awareness of self and love for their own personal development and the other person involved.
In an authentic relationship where there is also a genuine affinity and exchange of honesty, trust and respect, you both equally care about each others personal growth, happiness and overall well being. And a relationship cannot grow, thrive or reach its full potential, nor can the two people involved in it grow and reach their full potential, without these three key elements. Why not you may ask? Because at the end of the day, and at the heart of the matter, honesty through open, heartfelt communication builds trust..trust builds respect. The three of these elements together leads to the strengthening of the bond between the two of you which nurtures and prospers your relationship in genuine...authentic..deep and abiding...Love. Until next time...I surround you in love & light! So always keep your heart open and your LOVE light on. A One Love Production By Anna M. Hendricks Copyright 2013
Today marks the countdown to the 12 days of Christmas. So continuing with my Inspirational Love Note theme on forgiveness this month, let's bring it to a culmination together by trying a little forgiveness exercise. For the next 12 days think of, mediate on, pray on and ponder what weeds of resentment, anger, and unforgiveness you need to pull up from the garden of your heart and mind. When Spirit reveals to you who or what you're still harboring resentment toward and need to forgive, past or present, write the persons name or the situation down on a piece of paper. Once you have your list pray over it everyday for the next 12 days. Then on Christmas Eve night, light a candle and hold the piece of paper with your list on it up to your heart and affirm: "Through the power of Christ in me, I now forgive every person & situation on this list. Divine Love is now adjusting my life and healing my pain. I now release you and bless you so that I may go free to continue my life path in peace and harmony." Then burn or flush that list down the toilet and wake up on Christmas Day, the day we celebrate the birth of Jesus the Christ, with clear intentions, expectations and a proclamation of it being your day of emotional rebirth, healing and a new beginning on your path of Love. Until next time I surround you in Love & Light! So always keep your heart open and your LOVE light on. A One Love Production By Anna M. Hendricks Copyright 2013 Affirmation enclosed are the original words by author of article
Anyone who has children, or has worked extensively with children as a profession, knows that when they reach the toddler stage of development it's very common that they begin to "act out." Why is it then when we see a newborn baby or infant crying we
recognize it as normal behavior yet we have an entirely different perception of a toddler having a tantrum? In fact, our initial response to a fussy or crying infant is usually, "Awwww...don't cry baby." We then follow up that initial reaction by holding and coddling the baby while showering him or her with high doses of patience, love, attentiveness, empathy and
compassion. In contrast, when that once cute little infant reaches the stage of toddler
and begins displaying age appropriate behavior for that stage of development as well, otherwise known as "the forbidden temper tantrum", all our patience,
attentiveness, empathy and compassion goes out the window. Instead of giving the toddler the same understanding and
patience we did during its infant stage, like probing to figure out the root cause of their undesirable
behavior, we become frustrated and try to force them into having model behavior.
As a society we quickly blame the parents, especially the mother, as failing to properly discipline the child. Some people also place judgmental labels on the toddler behaving like this as being bad or spoiled. And who thought it was a good idea to even go as far as to stamp this stage of child development as the parentally dreaded, "terrible twos"? Truth is, just like the infant, a toddler does not have the vocabulary,
understanding or emotional skill level yet to effectively express what they’re
feeling either. So, in most cases, they are simply acting out some emotional
or physical need or desire they are not getting. They have also not yet learned a better
way to get their parents or caregivers attention to meet that need. Just as likely, they may be mirroring the same behavior they see the adults in their life handle their emotions when not getting their needs or desires met. For example, they may frequently see mom and dad bickering, arguing and fussing with each other a lot. Perhaps the primary adults in the child's life are often screaming curse words, slamming doors, stomping or exuding negative angry energy and body language toward each other while the child is present witnessing the chaos.
Sounds childish and irresponsible? Absolutely! However, this is because, just like a physical child, adults have an inner child that occasionally behaves in
this same childlike way as a toddler having a knock down, drag out, ugly, tantrum. And when they do it's usually for the same or
similar childlike reasons a toddler does. If that sounds too ridiculous for you to accept or believe then perhaps no one ever informed you that emotional maturity is NOT synonymous with age. Like a toddler just learning the use of language as a form of communicating its thoughts and feelings, some adults do not always have the vocabulary rage, communication skills and emotional maturity level to effectively and appropriately express their thoughts, feelings or desires. Equally so, no one may have ever properly taught or shown them by example how to handle emotional
situations and express their intense frustrations and anger in a healthy way. More often than not, people who are well into adulthood still lacking the ability to respond rather than react to situations that arouse intense emotions,thereby resulting in them expressing their anger and frustrations like a toddler having a tantrum, is usually because they grew up in a home environment where such behavior was the norm. In fact, library and book store shelves are filled with books written by experts who have done studies on human behavior and proven that, unless someone in our childhood teaches us differently, we usually take into our adulthood interactions with others the same social and emotional behavior patterns learned from our parents and childhood environment. So in the aforementioned case of the adult still lacking the social, emotional and communication skills and abilities of a mature adult, they probably saw such emotional conduct and behavior demonstrated by the adults who raised them. If this is the case, they are most likely none the wiser that such behavior is inappropriate as an adult and pushes people away. Truth is, we are products of our environment which is why most of us reach adulthood still struggling with and trying to overcome issues and wounds that goes deep back into our childhood and is in desperate need of healing. Unfortunately, in order to heal your emotionally wounded places you are required to also be emotionally vulnerable enough to face your wounded places within. For most people this is not an easy task to accomplish due to fear of being rejected, judged, criticized or looked down on by others once the mask is off and your wounded inner child has been exposed. What's funny is when we see such behavior in other adults, that mirror the tantrum prone toddler, we tend to label them as “crazy”. Yet, when our own,
childlike behavior or “inner crazy” comes out we excuse or justify it as
venting or blowing off steam. But at the end of the day yelling, shouting, cursing, slamming doors and pouting, i.e. staying mad
for hours or days at a time, is an adults inner child having a toddler tantrum. So the next time someone says or does something that causes a disturbances in you or pushes your buttons resulting in you having an adult tantrum. First, remember they are just that, your buttons and you are the only one responsible for your actions or reactions regardless of what anyone else says or does. Second, remember the manner in which you choose to react or respond to something or someone is ALWAYS about you not the other person. It is a reflection of what's already going on inside you, not the other person. So own your "stuff".
Lastly, should you find yourself reacting to what someone says or does in a manner very similar to a toddler having a tantrum, remember it’s just your inner child reacting to a need or desire that’s not
being met. Like the infant crying and the toddler pitching a fit trying to get mommy and daddy's attention to its needs, your strong childlike reaction is your inner child's way of getting your attention to its needs. It is a direct indication of your inner child attempting to bring to your awareness the wounded places you are still holding on to from past hurts that are still in need of healing. The same is true when you see this behavior in other adults in your life. And just like with a toddler it is best to calm down and respond NOT react.
And the best response to your inner child's cry for help and healing is to refer back to paragraph one of this article to the example of the infant baby crying. Then find some place private and quiet you can go to be still and embrace your inner child with high
doses of patience, compassion, understanding. Follow up by probing yourself, perhaps
with the aid of a therapist if necessary, to uncover the root cause or reasons for your repeated undesirable, socially unacceptable, strong emotional reactions and behavior. Also, be honest with yourself, and those closest to you if necessary, especially if your explosive emotional episodes is jeopardizing your relationship with your spouse or mate. Most importantly, repeatedly give your inner child the maximum doses of love and forgiveness you are capable of giving, no matter how many toddler like tantrums you continue to have along your journey to self healing. Until next time...I surround you in love & light! So always keep your heart open and your LOVE light on.
A One Love Production By Anna M. Hendricks Copyright 2013
