The catch-22 with this, very clear and seemingly simple, biblical definition of Love, is that it's impossible to be, or express one without being, and expressing the other. I have never seen an impatient person who is also kind. Nor have I ever met a kind person who at the same time lacked patience. In fact, I believe it is during the times we have an attitude of impatience that provokes the unkind behavior we express toward others the most.
Here are a few prime examples. When you are rushing through traffic, tailgating the cars in front of you, yelling or gesturing obscenities to the other drivers trying to make them speed up so you can pass by because you feel they're driving the speed limit is moving too slow for you and hindering you from getting to your destination in the time frame you want...you are NOT being, extending or expressing patience and kindness. Thus, you are not in alignment with the expression of love.
If you find yourself hemming and hawing and making rude comments (even if under your breath or in your head) to the cashier while waiting in line at the store then you are NOT being, extending or expressing patience and kindness. Thus, you are not in alignment with the expression of love.
If you are the kind of person who often says, or is thinking as you read this, "Yeah... Yeah...Yeah...all that sounds great in a perfect world but I have things to do, places to go and people to see. So I don't have time for this patience, kindness and love frame of thinking.
I have to keep my day and my life moving forward. And people who don't move or do things at my pace are in my way and a hindrance to me getting what I need done." Then you my friend are not being, extending or expressing patience and kindness. Thus you are not in alignment with the expression of love.
The importance of being consciously aware of this is that when you are not expressing patience and kindness not only are you not expressing love...you are in essence not expressing the presence of God in you.
Now if you're thinking, "Alright, I get the the point about patience and kindness but why did you through God in the mix. What does being patient and kind have to do with God?"
My answer to that question is this. The Holy Scriptures tells us that patience and kindness is love and God is love. And if we are made in God's image and likeness then we embody the same characteristics that is of God such as patience and kindness. Therefore, God has everything to do with it. "For we cannot love God, whom we have not seen, if we do not love others, whom we have seen." (1 John 4:20)
Spiritual Laws affect all of us rather one chooses to believe in them or not. And one very basic spiritual law is that what we give out is the measure in which we receive. So it's safe to say, when you fail to express the characteristics of God, such as patience, kindness and love, then you are the one who is really the source responsible for hindering and holding back your progress and inevitably your own good.
Understand that thoughts are energy and when you maintain an attitude of impatience which provokes behavior that exudes unkindness, you are literally vibrating to the negative energy that's creating more of the very thing you don't want. The energy it takes to stay in that frame of thinking and emotional state is the very energy that is the block and separation between you and your good. As I mentioned in my opening statement, you cannot receive that which you have not yet learned to be, extend, express or give. And this principle applies to everything, on every level and every area of your life.
So the next time you're feeling anxious or frustrated resulting in you behaving aggressive and pushy, impatient, abrupt, unkind or just flat out mean, stop for a moment. Take a deep breath and practice the art and virtue of being patient which will lead to you also being kind. Then sit back and watch everything begin to suddenly fall into place. And not in your time but divine time which believe it or not is always perfect time.
The key to this, however, is not by using our external power in attempt to force what we want to happen. Nor does it unfold by our willfulness and determination to push things forward. Yes action is often necessary to achieve our goals but we live in a universe that's designed to support us not go against us.
Through patience and kindness we evoke another basic spiritual law called divine order that is only able to express itself when we stop trying to make things happen and allow things to happen by letting go, letting God, and aligning ourselves with Love . It's not just a cliche. Love really does have the power to heal, correct, transform, and attract to you every good thing that's divinely yours to receive. And not just your good but the highest good of all involved.
Until next time...I surround you in Love & light!
A One Love Production
By Anna M. Hendricks
References: Holy Bible ~ Good News Translation